Day 16: Behind every half-assing man is an enabling woman

I have come to the conclusion that I only say profound s*** late at night when I'm supposed to be sleep. 
One will only half-ass when allowed too. My mother did not accept half-assing on anything in her house..and she made sure that you understood what her expectations were just so you don't half-ass..and if you did half-ass there were consequences...period!
It is currently 1am and I felt compelled to do a blog post based off of a comment that I made on a friends Twitter post. She talked about dudes being pretentious and I decided to comment that guys are pretentious because we as women allow them to be.
Think about it, behind every messed up man there's a woman that can account for his actions either it is his mother or ex girlfriend there's usually a woman that can a be placed at fault.
I posted a picture on Instagram of basically how I felt about the comment and just simply summarized how I feel in general. We women have to do better we can not just accept any kind of b******* ass behavior from these guys, we have to stop letting them do, say, and act however they want and get away with it. We have to stop accepting half-assing. If men were forced to do better they would do better.... it's like Fabolous said "it if you knew better you do better" and they DO know better they just DON'T do better because they don't have to!
I'm not in the business of teaching somebody else's son how to be a man and step it up nor am I in the business of giving advice.... I am just merely a vessel of truth stating facts. Let's stop enabling each other and let's start speaking positivity into 1 another. If we allow them to continue to act a fool and get away with it while they are with us then when he moves on to the next he will just think hey it worked before let's do it again. Stop making excuses for the dumb s*** that he does and start realizing that he does it because you let him...and everything that he does does not always constitute a cuss out. We as women are so smart and so powerful and sometimes we just need to learn how to use our words "better"... you kill more flies with honey than vinegar.... or something like that. Speak to them and not at them they listen better...our so I'm told lol!
So women step it up so that the men can step it up...and then maybe we will have a better dating  environment for ALL of us! Yay

[PS this is stuff you should probably think about from day one when you first met ole dude....start strong finish strong...a good foundation will keep your "house" from sinking]

New year social media reform

In a conversation I had earlier with my cousin I realized that starting this new year off with a clean slate is important....she told me that she plans to delete her main twitter page and use a more grown up page, where she can talk to people who have similar interest and viewpoints as her.
It took me a minute to understand where she was going with it but I am always constantly reminded of the dumb shit I run across on twitter. Yall will get on twitter and tweet some of the most ignorant shit I have ever heard..... Lets stop broadcasting our shortcomings people and our lack of depth....and if you fail to understand what my previous statement means then this applies to you more than likely.
I am pleased with my friends/followers on my social media guilty pleasures... the majority of the time, I have some great people that I follow that are insightful and hilarious which pretty much sums me up....and yet we get the few who slip in there with their ignorance..those are usually the ones who deceive us into thinking they are about something but really are not....the same people that complain about you talking about real shit or retweeting inspirational or encouraging things. I remember during the election seeing people I followed complain about people talking about the election....that is a deal breaker and grounds for an unfollow... If you know me you know I stay politically aware and up to date with what is going so if you don't care that's fine but don't say ignorant things to emphasize how much you don't care...it just makes you look dumb as a bag of bricks.
Anyways to keep this short lets move into the new year with a new mindset about or social media post and the kind of energy we are putting out in the atmosphere....lets still laugh about dumb stuff but lets also talk about important stuff...no one cares about the weed you smoking or the girl you screwing or better yet for that matter how you like to have sex....better yet lets retire throwback Thursdays, titty Tuesday, twitter after dark, and these damn number/rating games....SHATTT!

Day 2: life and people

"God has a reason for allowing people to walk out of your life. Trust that he will ALWAYS replace them with someone even better." @ihateqoutes
This was the first inspirational thing I saw when I woke up. As I embark on this journey this year this will prove to be very important. A couple days before New Years I actually spent a long time in deep debate about the current people in my life and who should stay and who should go. It started to stress me so I just decided to pray for a spirit of discernment to fall on me in this new year.
I think about how much time I spent last year analyzing every situation I went thru and evaluating its propose and the lesson I was to learn from it. I did that with people too...I was so afraid of missing out on something great I was making a lot of unwise decisions and getting caught up in things I really didn't have time to focus on.
Going into this new year I have decided to weigh people by what they bring to my life or bring out of me....nothing but positivity. I don't want someone in my life that makes me angry and uneasy all the time. So much useless emotion was spent on useless people in my life last year.
My natural ability to be compassionate and overly caring often traps me into getting caught up in how I feel about someone for whatever reason....completely overlooking the reality of the situation....stressing me out!
So no more lectures to people who I spent an entire year lecturing to...if you haven't got it by now you won't get it...shrugs... Still love you tho...and no more getting caught up in my emotions  about others choices...at the end of the day I must realize that you made your decision and despite how much I try to make sense of it or make you see how you could better "manage" your decisions
It ultimately is your life....I can't play a supporting cast role when I'm never cast to begin with!!
So in conclusion God has allowed a lot of people to walk thru my life in the past several years...some great some not so great but I'm waiting on those better people he has promised me.

2013... Day 1

HAPPY NEW YEAR
Well I'm going to work really hard to keep up with the blog this year along with some other things such as working out and living healthier and living with purpose. I didn't really make a new years resolution this year...I decided to just work on making better decisions all around. My pastor preached a good sermon on the last Sunday of 2012 that made me think a lot about my decisions and how they affect me. So my only resolution I would guess would be to be better than last year. I did a lot of learning this past year so now it is time for me to take what I learned and apply it. My pastor says that life is all about making decisions and managing those decisions...I think I understand what she was trying to say...so hopefully I will do better this year with that...
I just want to not repeat last year learn from my past but move past it and not dwell there...and to grow closer to my purpose and be a blessing to someones life...and live, love, laugh harder than 2012 lol. So here's to chapter 1 of 12, Page 1 of a 365 page book.....

The Baby Mama Entitlement Issue

So what the fuck is up with THE BABY MAMA'S of the world & their entitlement issues??? I'm soooo over these little young ass broads going around addressing themselves as "such & such's baby mama". First off, bitch you don't have a name? Second, you don't have an identity for yourself outside of being the mother of this child for this man? I am soo disgusted with these baby mama's getting on they high horse feeling all entitled to this man just because his sperm met up with your egg. Let's be honest bitch, if it wasn't your egg it would have been someone else's so you're not that special... you can have a baby & so can the next girl! Your uterus doesn't make you superior!

These women going around calling themselves BABY MAMAS, out here having these babies out of wedlock may be to trap a man or whatever the reason is.. They are so lost! And by no means am I judging women for having kids out of wedlock, hell my mother was a single parent and NOT EVER DID SHE EVER CALL HERSELF A BABY MAMA! But these baby mama's, whom truly don't have any other title in their life besides being a baby mama, are soo stuck! Like that's all you want in life is to be a BABY MAMA, you didn't think about maybe becoming a wife?

These little young broads are so wrapped up in that man who impregnated them, getting so caught out there with this "Baby Mama" title they have created for themselves (because let's be honest that is all you will be). I have had 2 baby mama encounters in my life and both times this young woman addressed herself as "The Baby Mama" not ohhh my name is such and such I'm the mother of such and such...nothing! My thoughts of course are that this broad doesn't think highly of herself & she is so caught up in her emotions for this man! This man who by the way has moved on & decided to start a new life with someone else. Yes you will forever be the mother of his child but YALL ARE NOT FUCKING TOGETHER ANYMORE!

Ya'll not together I don't give a FUCK     Bitch I am his BABY MAMA

Women please stop going around addressing yourself as baby mama's or even letting the father of that child address you as his baby mama... Its degrading & if you have any self worth you would never let yourself be demeaned to just a baby mama! Yes being a mother is a great accomplishment but it is not who you are it doesn't define you but it is just a piece of the puzzle that makes you ... You!

And men stop putting these broads on a pedestal just because she is the mother of your child. Yeah that's all great and dandy and yes you need to show her the utmost respect at all times because of that, but stop playing victim to these hoes and their entitlement issues! Stop appeasing to their every whim just because you need to stay on her good side! THE FUCK.. If you're a good father & you are on your shit .. That bitch should never have anything sideways to say to you... And if she does I need for yall to go, grow you a pair of balls and find a lawyer! Plain & simple! Stop letting these broads feel like they are ENTITLED to being your baby mama! If you don't know how to seperate being a father from being that womans man.. Than you need to go talk to a REAL man who has been there done that! You can be a great daddy to a child and not have a relationship with it's mother outside of being parents! So stop being victims of The Baby Mama Entitlement Issue & stop dating new girls who are willing & accepting of the fact that you have a child and also make them victims of The Baby Mama Entitlement Issue.. We don't have time for that shit!   Live, Laugh, Learn!

Racism Still Alive... thriving on Social Networks

In the midst of all that is going on in this country right now I felt it necessary to write this post.
I am appalled at the level of ignorance in America. I feel that today even in spite of us overcoming and achieving the top most prestigious honor of having a black President, there is still this racism lingering around putting a bad taste in everyone's mouth!

I look back in history at all the things that people had to endure to get us rights, equality, and even just for "black" to be socially acceptable. And now even in 2012 we still are being attacked with racial undertones.
Social media has given a lot of people a voice that they truly don't have otherwise. They get to hide behind twitter or facebook and say shit that they normally wouldn't dare say out loud. LOOK, this is it... let me tell you first hand that your social media site (whether it be twitter, facebook, you tube, whatever) is suppose to be a direct reflection of you, stop saying stuff for show!! I tweet things that give you insight into who I am as a person, no need to lie for a RT or more followers. I'M SO FUCKING TIRED OF PEOPLE PERPETRATING ON TWITTER ACTING LIKE SOMETHING THEY AREN'T.  OR BETTER YET.. THEY HAVE BEEN LIVING THEIR LIVES AS A LIE AND NOW THEY HAVE THE "COURAGE" TO BE THEM VIA INTERNET! HAVE A DAMN SEAT PLEASE!!!!
 Yes it is your page and you should have the right to state your opinion on your page. But some folks have gone too damn far!

One of my favorite things to watch on Youtube is a web series called The Mis-Adventures of Awkward Black Girl! It is a great show funny, witty, and I can relate to it! But to make a long story short she won a Shorty Award for it! (YAYYY she deserves it) However, the backlash from her winning that Shorty Award was crazy, people on twitter talking about "I can't believe I lost to a niggerette", and "of course the black one wins"! WTF excuse me! Read her response here!!!

Another example, I was having a conversation last night with one of my male friends and we had this same discussion about how people get this "courage" to say ignorant shit via twitter. He was telling me about The Hunger Games (and no I haven't read the book or seen the movie) but he was telling me how the book described some of the main characters and how they came out in the actual motion picture. He talked about how people were so outraged that one of the main characters was portrayed in the movie by a black girl! He told me that in the book though she was described as having a darker complexion, so he couldn't understand why so many people were so bothered by the casting choice! I take it that this girls character was a major one in the story and I was told that she had a very powerful, moving death scene that made a lot of people very emotional when reading the book. But the same people who were balling in tears reading the book, went to the movies and saw she was black & had the audacity to say "oh she's black oh I don't care anymore about her dying" and "damn why did they make her character black"! ARE U KIDDING ME!  Oh so because she doesn't look like you her death is of no importance or loses value! This is the problem... This is why there is a dead 17 year old in Florida in a coffin, in a grave while his known killer is chillin!

Ignorance is running rampant in this country and it needs to be stopped. Assumptions, racial profiling, stereotyping... All of it is ignorance!  I didn't even know how many people in this country felt the way they feel about black people... Don't be fooled there are a lot! "Racism still alive they just be concealing It"... A famous line by Kanye West and I believe it more than ever today. Even right now with all of the tension in the country over the Trayvon Martin situation people still don't see the error in their ways. We are ALL people, we all bleed red blood and breath oxygen! God made us visibly different but not to tear us apart or to have dumbass racist use twitter to be passive aggressive. If you have an issue with black people don't hide behind your social network account...regardless of your issue, you are still wrong... WE ARE ALL CREATED EQUAL! A person with an ignorant perception can only see what they want! Maybe if some people's perception was different Trayvon Martin would still be alive. CHANGE! Live Love Learn!

Trayvon Martin.... giving a voice to the silenced

Trayvon Martin was senselessly killed on February 26th. I didn't hear about his story until March 16th when the 911 tapes were released. I had seen a few people talking about #Justice4TrayvonMartin on my timeline but I didn't know what they were talking about. So on that Friday I googled him and from that moment on my heart and my soul was disturbed.

Trayvon Martin was a high school seniorwho played football. This 17 year old was headed back to his father's house during half-time of the NBA finals with Skittles and Iced Tea in hand. It was raining a bit outside so naturally he had on a hoodie, but it is that very hoodie that led George Zimmerman to racially profile this young man. As the 911 tapes suggest Zimmerman spotted Martin and assumed that he was up to no good. A friend of Zimmerman reported this week that there had been a series of burglaries and break-ins in the gated housing community recently and that George Zimmerman was fed up. That's cool and understandable, if I was the neighborhood watch captain I would be tired of having constant crimes happening on my watch also. Zimmerman told the 911 dispatcher "These assholes always get away",it can be concluded that there has not been an arrest made in the past burglaries in the community. However, if there had not been an arrest made..... HOW DID HE KNOW THEY WERE BLACK? Did he just assume that all black men walking in hoodies are criminals up to no good! CLEARLY!! George Zimmerman was fed up and he decided to take matters into his own hands. From the moment he saw Trayvon Martin walking back into the gated community he had predetermined he was a criminal and that he intended to do something about it! In my eyes that is grounds for premeditated murder! He got out his vehicle and pursued Trayvon Martin, even after the 911 dispatcher told his ass to stay put!

Trayvon Martin was minding his own business, on the phone with one of his friends trying to make it back to the house before half-time was over. Witnesses and Zimmerman say that a fight broke out after Zimmerman approached Trayvon. But let's be real...if someone you didn't know was following you and confronted you what would you do... Try and run or defend yourself. Trayvon tried but he was fatally shot in the chest by Zimmerman's 9mm gun. This young man had to lose his life over a hoodie, he looked suspicious!

George Zimmerman is a bastard, the most Eff'd up part of all of this is that this muthaf'er is not even sitting in jail. They let him go that night. WHERE THE HELL IS IT OK TO SHOOT AND KILL SOMEONE AND YOU GET TO GO HOME AND SLEEP IN YOUR BED THAT NIGHT?? Trayvon Martin was killed nearly a month ago and the Sanford PD have yet to make an arrest. Zimmerman claimed self defense but what was he defending himself against...some skittles and an iced tea?


My heart breaks to know that this fat bastard is at home chillin while this boy is in a grave! The Sanford PD and Zimmerman need to be prosecuted. Homicide police didn't even report to the scene, Narcotics did! They ran a background check on Trayvon Martin as he laid dead on the wet ground, but not on Zimmerman! They took a blood sample on Trayvon Martin but not on Zimmerman. THEY LET ZIMMERMAN GO, but took Trayvon Martin's body to the morgue as a John Doe because they failed to ask any of the neighbors if he lived there! This story makes me sick and brings tears to my eyes every time I think about it. I have a 15 year old brother and he could very damn well have to face a situation like this due to his black face... He is suspicious! I have taken time out to use my voice everyday to spread the word and get the info out there about this injustice. I plan to use all means of communication twitter, facebook, my blog, youtube, whatever I can to make people more aware. The fact that there aren't enough people as outraged as I am bothers me, but just a month ago everyone was going hard for Stop Kony 2012. Ya'll care about what happens 3,000 miles away but don't care about the shit that happens in your own backyard.. O_o!


Below I have attached a few articles and a link to the 911 tapes.
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Why Black People Don't Trust The Police
The 911 Tapes
Below is an article by Michael Skolnik.... It is soo good and it gives a different kind of perspective definite must read and share with friends!
White People, You Will Never Look Suspicious Like Trayvon Martin by Michael Skolnik | Global Grind


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